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Dating and relationships: are they dreams come true or living nightmares? That’s the question Fern Lulham, who is blind, asks each month on Into You.

Into You

Dating and relationships: are they dreams come true or living nightmares? That’s the question Fern Lulham, who is blind, asks each month on Into You.

Recent episodes

Disability Kissability

Authored on April 1, 2021

What is dating like when you have a disability, and what lessons can we all take from that - disabled or not? In this episode of Into You, we're talking about a topic which, (as a blind lady myself) is close to my heart: dating with a disability!

I chat with mental health advocate and vlogger Paige, who has been a life-long wheelchair user, and model, actor and personal trainer Julian, who was born with only one arm. We discuss everything from disclosing your disability to maintaining confidence despite stark rejection, and what makes it so important to understand why some people may be hesitant about dating a person who is disabled.

Paige speaks about her very own social experiment in which she tested out Tinder users' reactions to pictures of her both with and without her wheelchair in her profile and Julian shares some psychological facts which very much made him doubt his chances of dating success as a young man with a disability.

It's a subject surrounded by taboos and uncertainty, so join me as we seek to dispel misconceptions and help break down barriers when it comes to dating and disability from both sides.

Links:
Paige can be found on social media: @alifelookingup

Julian can be found online: @julianwlucas

Ghosting with Renee Slansky

Authored on March 4, 2021

Fern chats with dating expert Renee Slansky about her professional take on ghosting. We explore how people are affected differently, how to know when it's time to give up on someone, and how we get stuck in a haunted house of our own making by refusing to let go of somebody who has ghosted us. Whether you've experienced being ghosted, know somebody who has, or share a fascination for dating dynamics, this is a must-hear episode guaranteed to blow away the cobwebs and leave you in high spirits.

Renee's links: www.reneeslansky.com or search Renee Slansky on social media for more. 

Haunted Hopes and Gorgeous Ghosts

Authored on February 4, 2021

In this episode, we tackle the topic of ghosting - when someone you are dating unexpectedly disappears without a trace! We explore the psychology behind ghosting, why people do it and how it can have an impact on both parties.

I speak to Stephanie DeLacy, (a top rated writer from New York) about her many experiences of being ghosted, how she was impacted by the sudden disappearance of men she had been dating for some time and what happened when she reached out to confront one guy who had ghosted her - and actually got a response!

I also talk to Colin Drucker, a self-confessed serial ghoster, who explains why he chooses to vanish, where he draws the line with ghosting and how important it is to see things from "the other side."

Grab your torch, because today on Into You, we're going on a ghost hunt!